The Shishiyayas!!!

The ice princesses of West Amman have a certain untouchable feminine allure that many men find irresistible. They embody all that is ‘superficial’ and ‘aloof,’ theoretically negative traits, but strangely successful characteristics in attracting the opposite sex. They are ‘Rules’ girls, putting Fein and Schneider to shame with their tactics, all under the guise of class and nonchalance.
How do I know it’s an act?
Well, first of all there’s the science of it all. The female brain is very different from that of the male brain, we’re wired differently. We analyze emotions and behaviour. We use different parts of our brain when we interact with people, we see expressions men don’t see and we hear tones men don’t hear. The theory is that women had to evolve differently for survival, which may very well be, but that doesn’t change who we are today. A large part of our behaviour, the wiring of our brains and the way we socialize, is determined by hormones. This applies equally to men, the crucial difference being, which hormones dominate. Men, while largely affected by testosterone and vasopressin, don’t endure the hormonal cycles that women do on a monthly basis. It’s not that evolution favoured the emotional instability of a gender, but that in the past, women were mostly always pregnant, from puberty through to menopause, if they lived that long, and rarely had to endure the same type of fluctuations that we deal with today. Women experience more highs and lows then men can begin to relate to, and a large part of their self-esteem is based on the success of their relationships, with family, friends and men. Men are judged by how they provide and what they accomplish, a completely different mindset.
Are we destined to always be different? Probably not! Recent findings show that women in more competitive career fields have higher levels of testosterone, and the daughters of career women have higher levels of testosterone than those of stay at home mothers. There’s reason to believe that achievements trigger the release of the hormone, and women pass it on to their daughters as a trait in pregnancy. So it probably won’t take too many generations to equalize the situation to suit modern trends.
The second reason, I know beyond a doubt that it’s an act, is because I have friends who fall into that category. Women are not calm and collected individuals, and the only way they can be genuinely nonchalant about a ‘prospect’, is if they don’t like him as much as someone else. Their nonchalance in such situations is not motivated by their extra-curricular interests or full life, it’s motivated by their lack of interest in the individual in question. In the rare case where the girl genuinely doesn’t care and she still ends up with the person, it is usually out of negativity and resignation. Not because the competitive forces of maledom have won again.
My ice queen friends have lectured me on appropriate behaviour, when to call and when to ignore. I have been told to pretend not to care even when, deep down I was experiencing volcanic eruptions. Is it healthy to internalize anger? Wait for it to build up, until.... Ur married, and he’s stuck?!
The rules are not that complicated... Appear good, conservative, overbearing, spiritual if not religious, aloof, aloof, aloof! Rarely drink, except in extreme moderation, don’t laugh but smile appreciatively, sit cross-legged with your back straight and always leave early. While you’re at it, never form any real connections with people, they might think you’re human. And be sure to make men feel insecure with your patronizing gaze. Unless you’ve reduced them to insecure, fumbling teenagers, you’re royally off track.
These women can be unbelievably irritating, and yet we’re supposed to imitate, replicate, reproduce their image, their facade. My friend refers to them as shishipoopoos, I’m not sure where she picked up that term, but if she made it up, I prefer shishiyayas. I don’t like saying pooh, it makes me feel like an English toddler. We don’t deny their intelligence, their will or control, or the existence of their imperfect parallel lives and hidden personalities. We just don’t like being compared or categorised with them, and we certainly don’t want to be them. Although, maybe we should strive to be them, it’s clearly a formula that works. I don’t think I’m ‘smoothe’ enough, and I’ll quote my friend here, ‘Every time I try to play games, I come off looking like an idiot.’ I can’t imagine withholding my personality until some future date when it’s finally allowed to surface with all its stored up venom, and if I were a guy, I’d be more afraid of the girl who keeps it all in. Don’t get me wrong, crazy is crazy, and if you think a girl is crazy, run for your life, you don't want to go there! But here’s how you can tell the difference, nobody’s perfect, and if you think they are, and they have no faults, then you just haven’t made it past the first wall of resistance. I can promise, that behind the porcelain smile, is a very head strong and intelligent woman playing a high stakes game.